
I
was completing my freshman year, 1978, at DePaul University in Chicago. Why was I taking accounting classes, why did
I choose DePaul; these were my decisions and they were not my decisions. My parents never asked me where I wanted to
go to college. They never asked what my
plans were, for my future or the next day for that matter. They never asked me anything. They told me a whole bunch of other things,
though, in very loud voices. “You may
not [fill in the blank]. You are not
[fill in the blank].” Most of what they
told me included “not”, “no” or “hell,
no.”

My
boyfriend, Steve, was studying law at DePaul.
My plan at the time entailed making enough money to go as far away as
possibly possible from this crazy land I had lived within for 18 years. I had to become a corporate mogul, a top
female executive in any area that would let me in. So DePaul presented an option to explore my
escape. Dad’s reply to my college
request, “Why do you need to go to college?
You’re just going to get married and have kids,” left me wondering if I
had been transported back to 1950. After
the guilt trips, the screaming and constant nagging, my efforts elicited a
“yes, we will pay for school,” from my mother.
That
cash cow died first semester. I would
never get credit for accounting, which had prompted the trip to Walgreens that
Sunday afternoon after church, placing me in the desolate parking lot, far from
other cars, with the defiant open window.
Now, a strange man, brandishing a seven-inch The familiar, rancid odor of stale alcohol (like
Dad’s) wafted in my direction as he breathed in short fast inhales followed by
long scraggly exhales.

Did
my parents put him up to this? The
thought flashed across my brain. They
would think of some cruel act like this to keep me in line. They had done it before: the matches to my fingers, a failed attempt
to keep me from biting my nails; the brain scans they forced our MASH-trained
Dr. Ackley to perform on me after a bleeding ulcer put me in the hospital for a
week, thereby proving or attempting to prove I had a brain disorder. There
had to be some medical reason why they could not successfully control my verbal
outbursts and me.
Many
thoughts and memories flashed before my eyes as we drove past Golf Road and the
home my father built with his bare hands, lone contractor, only to have Ma,
soon after moving in, decry it as unacceptable, too small, too anything she
could think of, in order to get him to build her another. “It’s not big enough. I want it bigger.” He took to the bottle that evening and never
looked back. Nor did he build her
another home.
I
thought about the dream I’d had not too long before that day. It had been eerily similar to my current
predicament, complete with the same streets, the same man. Had I willed this to be? Desperate measures call for desperate
actions.
....stay tuned for chapter 2.....
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